How was your first week in the New Year? Feeling good about 2017? I’ve had my doubts throughout the week, but then “the universe” presented some things that show signs of a promising year.
It’s taken me a week to really settle in and marry my resolutions, but I feel very comfortable with them and am ready to share! Be prepared, as this post is heavy on words and trim and photos (Who am I?!) However, I love being able to get a bit more personal with you and share the things I would like to work on in life. I hope you find my resolutions relatable and inspiring…
My New Years Resolutions
Note: Blogged while listening to 90’s Hip Hop (highly recommended)
- Be more present/ Listen more
This past year was struggle city for me. Nothing horrible happened, but I was in my head a lot. There were always so many thoughts running through my mind. Dreams of the future, stresses of the present, moving, trying to keep up with myself…I consider myself a very self-aware person, but as I look back on 2016 I realize when it came to spending time with the ones I care about I was always in La-La Land. I was physically present, but not always 100% all there. I was always straddling the line between present with others and my own personal thoughts. No wonder I always feel like life is a blur!
I could easily give the excuse that there was just a lot going on, but everyone has a lot going on. Point blank.
This year I would like to practice the art of listening. I have always had word vomit and always have something to share and gab about. But this year, I’d simply like to listen.
2. Network/Build new relationships/Establish deeper connections/Nurture current relationships
This resolution follows suit with the former. Being in a new city, I need to take the steps to branch out and network with others in my area. Josh and I have friends, but haven’t stepped out of our comfort zone to develop and build newer relationships. I am guilty of sulking and quite frankly BITCHING about how I miss my deep connections in D.C. yet
I haven’t really taken the appropriate steps to create those connections here in Denver. There are certain circumstances that I feel have been road blocks, but the biggest is myself.
In addition, last year I feel that I’ve put my oldest relationships on the back burner. I haven’t nurtured those deep connections, and although they will always be there and are still just as deep they have been neglected.
3. Explore more of my new city & state
Colorado is gorgeous. I have MOST DEFINITELY not set enough time aside to take in all of the beauty Denver has to offer. Let alone the rest of the state. This is mostly in part to poor planning.
This year, I want to set aside more time.
4. Develop a more consistent work/life balance
I literally feel like all I do is work. I can’t shake it. I felt the same way in D.C. The days I have off I am exhausted and the thought of planning an adventure sounds exhausting. There are always errands and chores to be done on one of my days off, and the other I usually just want to vegetate.
When I’m not working or running errands I almost feel guilty. But when I am working or running errands I feel like I deserve time off.
I would love to be more fair with myself and more importantly REALISTIC with myself when it comes to balancing work and play.
5. Consume responsibly
Holy crap am I a consumer. 2016 was just over board. I feel like I over indulged so much. Between eating out more than ever, shopping more than ever, “treating” myself more than ever….It was just a mess.
I’d love to take back some more control over my massive consumption habit. I think a lot of my over consumption was a coping mechanism to stress. Therefore, I need to start taking better mental care of myself!
6. Plan better for my future
I’m getting old. I have REALLY felt it this past year. I have never been someone who was too worried about the FUTURE future, but holy crap…that is now! It snuck up on me and I was just not as prepared as I thought I would be. Time goes by so quickly as an adult. I never really understood that until I actually became a “real” adult with real adult problems.
I need a better plan.
7. Cook more/Eat more CLEAN
Not much explanation here. I miss eating vibrant natural healthy foods. I used to eat clean all the time and then my lifestyle changed. I have recently begun cooking again and forgot how therapeutic and GOOD it feels.
I need more of that.
8. Give more
Admittedly, I’m naturally a pretty selfish person. I have no qualms with trying to make sure my needs are met, but NEVER at the detriment of another. As someone who has dealt with severe depression earlier in life, I learned that there are HUGE positive effects of being selfish IN THE RIGHT WAY. I think more people should learn to take care of themselves in this way.
That being said, I feel that I’ve been more selfish in the wrong way than I’d like to have been.
This year I’d like to focus on giving more of my time, money, and soul to others.
9. Make better financial decisions
Holy crap town, I need to be SAVED. 2016 was the worst I have EVER been with my money. I am usually the person you go to when you need financial advice and this year I threw all of my credibility OUT THE WINDOW.
I couldn’t even tell you where it all began. It’s just like one day I woke up broke and have been ever since.
I know getting to this place was a concoction and consequence of many personal choices, but HOT DAMN. Lesson learned.
This year I am taking back the reigns over my wallet and trying my best to make realistic financial choices.
10. Actively pursue my dreams
I feel that each year I DO actively pursue my dreams, but my strategies are never fully developed. This year I want to have better goals and do better planning to reach them! No matter how down I feel in life, it’s never for long because I have an unquenchable thirst to LIVE the life I want and reach my full potential.
This year I want to feed more of my ambition.
Lastly, I’d love to share with you a quote from The Holstee Manifesto that I had forgotten about that really speaks to me and inspires me to SLAY life:
“This is your life. Do what you want and do it often.
If you don’t like something, change it.
If you don’t like your job, quit.
If you don’t have enough time, stop watching TV.
If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love.
Stop over-analysing, life is simple.
All emotions are beautiful.
When you eat, appreciate every last bite.
Life is simple.
Open your heart, mind and arms to new things and people, we are united in our differences.
Ask the next person you see what their passion is and share your inspiring dream with them.
Travel often; getting lost will help you find yourself.
Some opportunities only come once, seize them.
Life is about the people you meet and the things you create with them, so go out and start creating.
Life is short, live your dream and wear your passion”
-The Holstee Manifesto
And with that my friends, I want to thank you all again for taking time out of your life to read my blog. Thank you for the support and I hope my resolutions inspire you. That is what I am here to do!!
IMPORTANT: Note that NOT ONE of my resolutions is to change my body. I didn’t realize that until after I had written out this post. This blog it about fashion, but first and foremost it is a way for me to reach out to other apple shaped girls and women and help them realize that we are and can be beautiful & fashionable & passionate. Even if you are not an apple, this message is for all of you ❤
Keep It Golden❤